January 2013

You’ll know You are a True LEADER… when a Skeptic gets you FIRED Up, but You Don’t Play

Do you get riled up when someone you admire or care about comes down on the negative side of your entrepreneurial passion? Your Precious Business?  If you are serious about what you do, the people you work with and especially the company, it’s structure, comp plan and owners…

When Skeptics Can’t Get to You..You’re No Longer In IT..


Here’s Why:

It’s usually your friends and family who don’t understand what you do for a living. You know the drill..Aunt Martha (the Skeptic) is over for Sunday dinner and the conversation gets around to “So Bob, how’s that selling thingy-ma-jiggy that you were doing.Did that ever pan out?” She follows with.. “Oh dear, it’s ok, those things never DID work out for you anyway… There all a bunch of get rich quick scams, especially the Internet ones. Your uncle has checked them all out”.

(well then it must be gospel right?) Couldn’t you just laugh? or scream!!?

Years ago I used to come back with all the reasons the skeptics were wrong, and fight, fight, fight. Then it occurred to me…The ONLY way Aunt Martha would realize I had any credibility, and my business was legit, was to be WILDLY successful, and to help a large trainload of people after me to be wildly successful too.

Spouses can be tricky skeptics, because you have to LIVE with them. You must be STRONG guys..and fight the urge to prove anything. It won’t matter. They will stand their ground, because they have seen you either have mediocre success or even fail over and over and over.The only thing that will satisfy them is CASH and LOTS of it coming in on a consistent basis. That’s a high pressure environment to live in and work in, and I commend anyone who can pull it off.

If you are blessed with a supportive spouse, you are very fortunate, or even better a business partner like Larry & I have chosen to work it. We found when we met that we had the same dream, and we doubled our efforts!

What about colleagues? Do you have friends or coworkers who criticize what you do? Maybe these skeptics don’t believe your company is real. Maybe they are from the old school and think you’re crazy to put a dime into internet marketing when millions of people are competing on Google every day.

Talk is cheap. There is nothing that satisfies skeptics like REAL RESULTS. Nothing will make a person shut the “f” up like cold hard undeniable results. Especially if you’re not the only one having them but you’re team is too.

Being defensive, lashing out, and giving lots of excuses..does not “excuse” you from getting results.  Appreciate the opinion of others even if you don’t particularly like it. You never know when that person’s loyalty could be critical to you.

Ask questions in return, and be smart. Ask why it so important to them… Some of these critics make this negativity part of their life, like they have something to prove to the world. That’s a heavy sack to carry around. Show some caring and understanding instead of anger.  Don’t engage the negative people the way they expect you to. Most skeptics will just go away, because you won’t fight them, and they are looking for a good fight!

You can always take the attitude like my good friend Lisa Kitter, a well know industry trainer, author, coach and radio host.

I’ve been a home-based business owner for 20 years and I realize that skeptics come with the territory. I understand that some people consider themselves to be “victims” of the entrepreneur world and therefore they become skeptical as to whether it is possible, to make money, by working from home.Let’s face it, being an entrepreneur is all about Risk and Reward. 

It truly drives me crazy when people say they were “burned” in a network marketing or home based business venture! You can’t be skeptical and expect to win in life! 

Come on…what does that mean? Burned? Really? Look, either you’re an entrepreneur or not.

If you are an entrepreneur,  then you realize that simply enrolling into a program/company isn’t enough and the money is not going to fall from the sky You must roll your sleeves up and “Go To Work!” 



I wrote this the morning that my dear friend Toni Banks passed away on December 31, 2012.

“My beautiful friend went to be with her sweetheart this morning..and though our Doug Banks must be very excited right now to be holding his wonderful wife in his arms again…Toni Banks We and the entire Enagic family will miss you so much..You have given us so much knowledge, heart, love, PASSION, Drive, Devotion..Possibility & BIG Thinking and So much more! Your Inspiration to us will LIVE ON Forever Toni..We Love YOU..As Requested By YOU We CELEBRATE Your Life!!”

Her thoughts, visions and goals have always been GRAND and LIMITLESS and taught us to STRETCH OURSELVES to be the GREATEST versions of our BEINGS …
to HONOR GOD in ALL we do and always Praise Him in our daily life.

Toni, We LOVE You Sweet Lady,

I will always dedicate my success to you, and carry you in my heart always!

Toni Banks was a 7 figure annual earner in the network marketing industry, and one of the most powerful sales leaders and personal recruiters the direct sales industry has ever seen. She was known for her ability to be results oriented and always getting the JOB DONE. while she nurtured her teams to huge growth with her husband Doug, who tragically passed away in the fall of 2010. Toni’s leaves behind a legacy to those teams all over the world literally, in the United States, Canada and Europe.

Toni Banks’ Famous Count to 4 Manifestation Formula

I have been thinking about what my dear friend, long time business partner and amazing teacher Toni Banks used to teach us..Probably the GREATEST concept that ever affected my life was “Count to 4″ and Here’s How It Works
1. Decide-Get really and truly CLEAR on what you want..Know it, See it, Picture it, Feel it Deep in Your Bones! Declare IT – Tell God and Shout to the Universe that YOU WILL have it! It’s Already in Motion..You Just have to tune into it.

2. BELIEVE Have True Faith that it WILL Happen..Believe like you’ve never BELIEVED before! Just KNOW that it will Manifest…and It will. It’s in that knowing, that the manifestation comes.

3. Cancel All the Negatives (The HOW) Don’t Worry about HOW it will happen, the “what if’s”, the people who will tell you that you’re crazy etc. Let that all go..Release it!

4. Stay in Gratitude and Love.. ! “Keep love and gratitude in your heart – praise God and the universe for your successes and allow Him to guide you. Listen to the quiet voice within!”

I think we would all agree that we who knew Toni saw her create magic in her life numerous times, and we who used this formula have as well!

From my perspective I think Toni would want to be remembered more than anything for her devotion to Her Heavenly Father, and her Family, as well as her Country, The United States of America. She held those three things most precious, and always stood proud and spoke loud in her love, faith and patriotism.

Toni Banks…Your Huge Presence as a Leader, A Big Loud Strong Voice in The World, An Opinion, A Guiding Force, a Teacher, and Friend

will be with us Always

After her funeral..I wrote:

“Said goodbye to a The Biggest Thinker I have ever known today. Toni was someone who pushed my mind open to places FAR beyond where I believed it could go, and showed me not only how to DREAM great things…but HOW to MAKE THEM HAPPEN in my life very effortlessly. I will carry her legacy of MANIFESTATION of WEALTH with me always and know that I am a better person, as we all are for having been touched by her HUGE SPIRIT OF SERVICE and GIVING…I Love You Toni … and will miss you every day..but as you asked, will not be sad, but rather, with get on with LIVING BIG in your memory!!”

We will Not Mourn or Cry for You as You asked…